Author Archives: Bender LeFante

The Real Answer to the important question “Is it Better to Give than to Receive?”

Is it better to give or to receive? If you look at what people write, and listen to what others tell you, it is almost impossible to come away with any thought other than it is better to give. But is it? How is it better? Or is it just something we tell children so […]

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Add This to Your Pre-Wedding “To-Do” List

There is a show on television where a woman goes to a fancy bridal salon and spends literally thousands of dollars on a dress she is going to wear once. When she finally picks the “right” dress she cries and feels very special and everyone agrees that this dress is the one which will make […]

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Marriage is like Government—

Here it is August and I already hate all the political ads I see. The truth be told, I really don’t like ads in general, but the political ones, in particular, seem to be more manipulative. Those advertisements try to pick one issue out of the zillions of things that a President will have to […]

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Johnny Depp-o-sitions

Recently, Johnny Depp has made the news with his wife’s allegations of his domestic violence countered by his assertions of her mental illness in their ongoing celebrity divorce action. The couple was married on February 3, 2015 before the scheduled wedding date because they “just couldn’t wait” and were “so much in love.” The marriage […]

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Why You Marry the Wrong Person

Alain de Boton, author of the novel “The Course of Love,” opined in the New York Times that people marry the wrong person because they optimistically believe that they are in love. Back not so many generations ago, and still in some places, marriages were arranged, or based on social, religious, and economic reasons known […]

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Pre-Nup or Post-Nup for the Pooch

One thing you can say about people in Wake County is that they love their dogs. In fact, in an equitable distribution or divorce action, “dividing the dog” is something that comes up more often than most people realize. There is an old joke about a man who is sitting in a bar telling his […]

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